Human beings are social creatures who respond to the love and affection of others. Genuine friendship has been valued as one of the most important things in life. To celebrate friendship and the blessings it brings us, it was deemed fit to have a day dedicated to friends and friendship and the first Sunday of August was declared as a holiday in US in honor of friends by a Proclamation made by US Congress in 1935.
"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy;
they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom."
~ Marcel Proust ~
I offer you this gentle reminder of friendship. Part of this has circulated the internet for years. Many of the quotes you may have already seen or heard. When I found it in my files this morning, it was the timely reminder on a perfect day.
"I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving
for my friends, the old and the new."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~
In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.
In 1st grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and who held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.
In 2nd grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.
In 3rd grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours.
In 4th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in the gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck "do-si-do-ing " with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.
In 5th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In 6th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan (your new crush) and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't be embarrassed.
In 7th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who let you copy the Social Studies homework from the night before that you did.
In 8th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you broke out into tears.
In 9th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In 10th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with during lunch.
In 11th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded and helped you find a date to the prom.
In 12th grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college or university and assured you that you would get into that college or university, or helped you deal with it when you didn't make it.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed a big smile on the outside as they congratulated you.
The summer after graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick (or you and Susan) were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind. And most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
"In prosperity, our friends know us;
in adversity, we know our friends"
~ John Churton Collins ~
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, makes time for you, overlooks your mistakes, helps you to deal with pressure from others, smiles for you even when they are sad, helps you understand how priceless you are, and most importantly loves you.
I am deeply grateful, today and everyday, for my genuine friends. With them I have discovered and enjoyed many of lifes blessings.
"A real friend is one who walks in
when the rest of the world walks out."
~Walter Winchell ~
No matter where we go or how our lives change, we never forget those who walked with us and supported us in getting there.
"Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me; I may not lead.
Just walk beside me and be my friend."
~ Albert Camus ~
There's never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message to show your friends you miss them or care about them.
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make
is that they can grow separately
without growing apart."
~ Elisabeth Foley~
